Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Intolerable Cruelty

Apparently, calling some one vain and relaying an unflattering (but true) story on the internet to a generic audience full of people the subject doesn't know is considered mean. Apparently, I hurt somebody's feelings. Apparently, because it doesn't deeply upset me that said feelings were bruised, I'm cold and uncaring. Apparently, things like that are demonstrative of one's character.

In case it wasn't clear before: I'm not always nice.

Does that mean I'm the walking definition of bitch? Nah.
What it means is that I have a tendency to be sarcastic, blunt, and a bit caustic. Those traits are inherent in my personality. They're part of what make me who I am.

Blogging is a forum I use to relay stories of the happenings in my life... kind of like a live, public-access diary. Sometimes I'm going to write things you might not agree with, about subjects that might make you uncomfortable, and people who might be a little too close to home. That's just part of it.

I call 'em like I see 'em.


Anonymous said...

To say that one is 'not always nice' simply because others are offended by their opinions... feels like a judgment based on an incorrect premise.

No one has a right to "not be offended". In fact, I would say that one's right and obligation to speak their mind, in any case, far and away supercedes the notion that one is imune from the truth or some sort of judgment based on their behaviors.

Truth by it's very nature is insensitive.. it is what it is. But to say 'not nice' isn't fair by any stretch of the imagination since the concept of 'not nice' implies a conscious intent. Simply stating 'what's so' doesn't make one 'not nice' it makes them honest.

The best part in all of this is ....rather than to even throw ‘the truth’ in this instance one ounce of examination.. the 'offended' has completely ignored 'what's so' and instead made the messenger the 'not nice' person for making an observation about socially inappropriate behaviors – never once aware of the painfully embarrassing conduct that brought about the observation in the first place.

Sensitivity is a two-way street. In order to brand oneself as ‘Sensitive’ one must also be ‘sensitive’ to the needs of Others as well as self. Because when it is not… it’s just plain selfishness
( an aside note to the offended here: If the blogger noticed these behaviors and they were cause for concern on any level.. you can rest assured that everyone around you notices also, but are to “nice”, as opposed to ‘not nice’ to say anything about it. The old proverb stands just as true today as it when it was written over 4000 years ago: “Faithful are the wounds of a friend…. But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful” My advice to the ‘offended’ : Start shunning the enemies who killing you with kisses ..and start praising the Friends who are kicking you with the truth.)

Anonymous said...

'Simply stating 'what's so' doesn't make one 'not nice' it makes them honest.' HUH, What a lovely world yours must be to live in. You're ugly. You're fat. You're stupid. You're vain. You walk funny. But at least I'm not mean because you really ARE ugly, fat, stupid, vain and walk funny.

Anonymous said...

Florida said, "Start shunning the enemies who killing you with kisses ..and start praising the Friends who are kicking you with the truth."

You also don't tell your husband that you’ve been having an affair with his best friend, Jeb, and a frisky Yorkshire Terrier named Gregg, while he was working his ass off at the rendering plant to pay for the sun porch you added on the trailer last spring on the Jerry Springer Show.


Lane said...

Tell him to get his own damn blog!!!

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